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 Attitude Is Everything! 

Date of Publish - Saturday, 28th October 2017

Attitude is like a beautiful dazzling dress. If you wear it you feel good and you will look beautiful.  A major part of your life concerns your attitudes toward yourself and others and how you feel as a result of the same.  Right attitude can contribute to leading a satisfying and successful life.  Your mind and your body are a part of the same system.  They influence each other.  When you are happy, you look happy and you sound happy too. Your attitude controls your mind and your mind delivers the body language.

For instance, there is a person who has a very cynical approach or who is a very aggressive in nature. You will observe that his body language (gestures/expressions) is also very aggressive or rude.

Similarly, let’s say there is a person who is very polite and has a very assertive behavior. You will observe that his body language, tone of his voice and words that he uses are also very assertive or polite.

Attitude sets the quality and mood of your thoughts, your tone and the words you speak. Most importantly, they govern your facial and body language.  Attitudes are like trays on which we serve ourselves up to other people.  Once your mind is set into a particular attitude, you have very little on-going conscious control over the signals your body sends out.  Your body has a mind of its own, and it will play out the patterns of behavior associated with whatever attitude you find yourself associated with.

No matter what you do or where you live, the quality of your attitude determines the quality of your relationships, not to mention just about everything else in your life.

Once upon a time, during the 16th century, there was a person named Sultan. One day, he called up all his wise men together and assigned them a task saying, “I want you to take the whole world’s knowledge and put it in one book and I will be smarter and knowledgeable person in the world”. Well the Wise men did.

As Sultan was an impatient man, he didn’t want to read the entire book, and so he set a new task before the wise men.  And he said, “I want you to take the whole world’s knowledge and condense it into one chapter.” And they wise men did.  The Sultan was not satisfied either.

The work was done on it again and again until it got down into a page then into a paragraph and then a sentence.  The King was still dissatisfied.  And then the Sultan said “I want one word in compensating all world’s knowledge”. And the wise men did it.

And the Sultan looked at the word and said “I’m satisfied”. Now what was the word? The word was Attitude.

Now how can a one word be the world’s whole knowledge? Let me explain Attitude for you.

5 Principles of Happiness

  1. If you like something enjoy it
  2. If you don’t like something avoid it
  3. What if you can’t avoid it? Change it
  4. But what if you don’t like something, can’t avoid it or you can’t change it? Now what? Accept it? How to accept it? Now here comes attitude. You accept it by changing over your attitude towards it. The only thing you have control over.
  5. What if you don’t accept it? Then this is also the principle of Unhappiness. If you don’t accept it, you’re unhappy.

A Change in your attitude may change your life.

 Use the right words. Use statement like, “I have a positive attitude,” or “We’ll find a solution,” in daily conversation.  The words you use on a daily basis have a major impact on your attitude and mood.

What company do you keep?  Do your friends have negative attitude? Does it rub off on you? Many a times, the company we keep can affect our attitude.  Associate with “positive” people in your classes and on campus.  I would suggest you partner up in sturdy groups and even look to either socialize or join resume building activities clubs.

When you know you need a change. When you know you aren’t happy, admit it to yourself and take action to reverse it.  This is a very difficult thing to do especially when you aren’t in the mood to admit things to yourself.  It may be hard, but it is worth it.  When you feel the negative vibes, realize it and change it.

Appreciate the Things you have. Learn to appreciate everything you have in your life.  Your family, friends, career, home, food, car, etc., is enough to create a positive attitude because of no matter how bad things get in life, we still must be thankful for everything we have.  Put things into perspective, and enjoy good things in your life.

Think twice before you act once. Look at problems logically.  When you let emotion take over, you may do things that made sense at the time, but in the end were not the best choices.  Before you act, think about what your action(s) will cause. If a person does something wrong that negativity affects you, don’t attack. Think about the best response. Only after you have done this twice should you take action.

React Vs Respond

These two words are the difference between a happy, enthusiastic, positive person and a sad, frustrated, negative person.  When anything happens in life that affects you, both directly and indirectly, respond to the situation.  This means you think about it, find a solution, and take the appropriate measure.  When you react, you skip the reasoning stage and do what comes naturally in the moment.  This only serves to cause more problems and frustration.  Respond, do react!

Don’t join the Gossip. Don’t join on the negative conversations around you.  If you see a conversation heading towards that road, excuse yourself politely and leave.

Start in the Right Direction

Wake up with a smile and with energy.  You have a lot to accomplish and enjoy today.  Life is short, and you are going to make the most of this day, and every day after that.

Focus on interesting ideas or concepts

In every class you attend.  Be prepared to “enjoy” your studies.  Do not accept the work as drudgery or painful.  Make it joyful by looking for a positive aspect.

Don’t listen to your mind’s negative thoughts.

The nature of the human mind is to offer worries, anxieties and fears.  However, how often do these actually come true? The mind can easily exaggerate problems making them appear more serious than they actually are.  Our thoughts are also very powerful and will determine our perception of the world.

Remember bad events can lead to good things

Often we wish things to occur in a certain way, when they don’t happen as we planned we feel miserable.  However no matter what happens we should try to make the best of the situation we are currently in.  For example if you are made redundant it may become an opportunity to try new things and a new direction in your career.

Remember the benefits of smiling.

Even when problems seem insurmountable there is no harm in smiling at our difficulties.  When we smile it releases a chemical, serotonins, which makes us feel better.  Also others will respond positively to people who are smiling.

Bad times don’t last forever.  Remember, “This too shall pass.

Author :
Sam B Arackal


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